Sunday, March 3, 2019
I’m 26 years old and from Manchester in the U.K.
I do freelance business consulting, autism consulting, mentoring and work on a travel startup. I enjoy it, as I like feeling challenged and I also enjoy helping people. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s after I graduated from University. I was diagnosed when I was 21 years old. This was because my Cerebral Palsy masked my Asperger’s. When the consultant diagnosed me, she said I was off the scale. My eyes change colour and I don’t feel guilt or remorse. I also have cerebral palsy as well. My biggest achievement so far is having the chairman of the Nobel foundation (Nobel Peace Prize) tell me I am inspirational. I am also the U.K. Winner in 2016 of the Falling Walls Lab, where I presented my research and business model in autism in Berlin. I want those who are not autistic to know: Autism isn’t a disease, it also can’t be cured. It is a neurological difference. Think of it as a different type of processing system, like Windows and IMac. Just because I am autistic, doesn’t mean I want to be placed in a room, full of other autistic people, it really stresses me, as I can’t predict what they will do.
I want those who are also autistic to know: Autism is a part of who you are, so it is better to embrace it, rather than hiding or being anxious of it. Important one, Autism is not an excuse for your behaviours, more of an explanation. The resources that most benefitted me, was physiotherapy when I was younger, to help with strengthening my muscles with my cerebral palsy. Also note takers and scribes for my exams when I was at University. Having someone do the writing allowed myself to be free thinking, which helped me complete the exams faster. Signs/symptoms of my autism: It was mainly from other people and family members, they noticed how I was really logical, but also displayed no emotion when other people got injured. I was also distracted in my part time job, unless I had noise reducing earphones in. I also avoided attending family or social events. When I was diagnosed, I felt relaxed. As I always knew I was different to others, but I now had an explanation why. (It unfortunately doesn’t explain why people are dumber than me though). Today I feel better about my diagonsis, as I put more coping mechanisms in place to help me manage situations. I can’t help being really honest and direct though. being diagnosed late wasn’t difficult, due to the physical symptoms of cerebral palsy and Asperger’s are similar, so I always put coping mechanisms in place, so I wouldn’t struggle, but would also help me play to my strengths, which is my problem solving and memory. I have faced many obstacles. I could speak really early, but I didn’t learn to walk until I was 3. I just kept trying and doing physiotherapy. I do things at my own speed not other people’s. Other obstacles I still face is my lack of empathy. Rome wasn’t built in a day though, so I will learn eventually. If I don’t, it’s not a bad thing not having empathy. It is quite freeing, as I don’t feel the guilt not matching to societies norms and values. So I can work to my full potential and live a life without regret.
here's a video of me at a public speaking event:
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