32 born in Taiwan, raised in Auckland
Currently regulatory administration for Auckland Council - it's not my passion but the people are lovely & I feel very safe to be myself around them
something most people dont know about me- I am very particular about the shape & material of utensils I use (even the people I live with are not really aware of this. E.g. I prefer sharper spade spoons because my mouth is really small, plastic or laminate chopsticks because bare wooden ones can absorb unwanted chemicals/germs
My biggest achievement so far is a collaborative effort in pulling together online application forms that integrates entered data directly to council's internal database system, which was also socially challenging for me & I'm very proud of what we have accomplished
I want to help the world embrace diversity, curiosity & adventure
what I wish NTs knew): I have an analogy I hope can help both NT & ASD understand each other, and the approach one can take into account when cultivating close relationships - NTs are social like canines, and ASD are highly sensitive like felines; there are a whole range of species within those umbrella categories of the animal kingdom with a spectrum of behavioral adaptations to navigate the environment around them & individual needs to be met. Wildlife documentaries on these two animal groups, and caring for a pet dog or cat will give insight into how we are as individuals & improve our relationships with ourselves & the others.
Funny story about me: when I was 16, I was in an ensuite shower one time, when my NT sister sat by our computer desk opposite with a yellow flesh peach & I asked her what it was. She convinced me it was the last one of a new yellow flesh apple they just bought & because I couldn't really see, I was suspicious at first but eventually believed her & said: "Oh wow can I have a bite too" and rushed out to realise the truth as she laughed at my facial expression. There I thought I wasn't gonna fall for one of her mischievous mind tricks anymore!
To those on the spectrum: people can be very intimidating & confuse you at first, but there are those among them who want to know us, support us & help guide us. Give each person a chance to connect with you, give yourself a chance to be better by setting & respecting healthy boundaries & never give up. Everything will be okay in the end with a robust variety of friends by your side!
I was a very confused child & young adult & always felt incredibly misunderstood; before I met my significant other at 23, I was often not quick enough to respond & express myself verbally & bullied & abused at home a lot growing up; my father tells everyone I'm a "genius - but you know how 'different' geniuses are" with negative connotations. I'm obsessed with color accuracy & visual detail, as my favorite color isn't just green or blue, it's viridian. I think & and remember in pictures, and talk to myself a lot in reviewing my day & how I could have said something differently.My friends & colleagues tell me I'm a very analytical person. I am really anxious around the parents of my significant other because I don't understand social etiquette, it feels very contrived & mechanical when I try a thing I'm told is supposed to make them happy.
I am still shunted by my birth family for who I am & at 32 I have given up trying to communicate because it hurts too much.
+ my gross motor skills & balance have always been poor, falling down the stairs & tripping over myself was common up until 8 years old, couldn't ride a bicycle on the flat until 14, couldn't rollerblade & ice skate until early 20s, can ski mid-mountain now but not very confident, can't handstand or cartwheel yet, still quite clumsy in most physical activities & regularly bumping my head & shoulders into things. Have been in pole fitness for 3 years now to combat the poor body coordination problem, however slow & steady the progress may be.